The 3 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me Sooner
I wish I knew a long time ago that most of what people tell you is wrong. 
 
Matt Lieberman says in his book “Social” that people are wrong because they follow ideas that they believe are generated by their own impulses, but for the most part these ideas exist solely to benefit the social group as a whole.
Tai Lopez Feb 10, 2015
This works in an Amish society because their group is small and they care about each other. But the world has seven billion people in it, it’s too large for the majority of people to even remotely know who you are. 
 
So we end up conforming to this huge cog in the machine, when what you really want to do is pick a small group then alter your behavior to fit in with that tribe. 
 
You see the same thing with money. Most people spend only 12% of their lives doing what they like to do, so they’re basically living 88% of their lives at the behest of other people. 
 
That doesn’t sound like a life that anybody would want. We are meant to be a blend of autonomy and independence.
 
One of the things that people are so wrong about is learning from your own mistakes.
 
I wish someone had grabbed me by the collar when I was young and said, “I want you to learn nothing from your mistakes.”
 
99% of adults feel like they failed. So they want to justify all the mistakes they made by telling themselves they had to make them to get where they are today. But in actuality they didn’t have to make those mistakes, they justify them because they’re painful.
 
You don’t have to learn from your mistakes. You have to learn from some mistakes, but why do they have to be your own? There’s no rule on that.
 
Most people are patiently impatient, which I’m pretty sure is the recipe for a horrible life. What you have to be is the opposite. Being impatiently patient may sound exactly the same, but it makes all the difference in the world. Like John Wooden said, “Be quick, but not in a hurry.”
 
People act like they have all the time in the world. You ask them when they’re going to make a move in life and they’ll tell you they’re just waiting to get a few things together first. They’re patient. But when real opportunities arise, instead of patiently waiting and building them step by step they hastily jump into them, they don’t put the hard work in and build the structure – that’s when they become impatient.
 
What I suggest you try instead is the exact opposite – freak out if you’re not living the life that you wish you had. Don’t wait until tomorrow, do it now. And then patiently build on that.
 
Don’t set far-off goals. When you set a 10-year goal you’re basically just giving yourself an excuse to procrastinate.
 
People who do big things take immediate action towards their goal. Once you immediately freak out, you immediately take action, then you begin patiently moving through each cycle. Peter Drucker says a good time frame is 18 months – it’s enough time for things to kick in but it’s not so long that you lose the predictive power of goals.
 
If you want to make money set your roots deeply, then use that as a base to branch out so you can travel with a purpose. Then you have the best of both worlds – travel without being transient.

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