Love Isn't Dead
Tai Lopez May 09, 2024
Love is not dead. You need to learn about attachment styles. Some attachment styles aren’t suited for a long term relationship.

How many attachment styles are there? There are 3 primary adult attachment styles:
Secure attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment.

I’ll give a quick breakdown of all three here.

Book Recommendation:
Read “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. One of my top 150 books everyone should read.


Avoidant Attachment
The attachment style that the girl has in the video. Not suited for long term relationships…
Here’s why:
  1. Highly values independence and often equates intimacy with a loss of independence.
  2. Prefers emotional distance and often pulls away when things get too close.
  3. Minimizes closeness and can be dismissive of the need for romantic attachments.
  4. Often appears aloof or self-contained.

If you’re in love with an avoidant know you’re not going to change them.

People with an avoidant attachment style can be fun. They’re not usually good in committed relationships.

Anxious Attachment
Think Ross Geller from the TV show Friends.


Someone with anxious attachment never seems to feel secure in the relationship. No matter how much you reassure them.

Draining after a while.

  1. Craves closeness and intimacy but often feels that partners might not be as invested.
  2. Frequently worries about rejection and excessively seeks approval and reassurance.
  3. Highly sensitive to partners’ actions and moods.
  4. Can exhibit clingy behavior and struggles with perceived threats to the relationship.
Secure Attachment
This is the attachment style you want for a relationship.

  1. Feels comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
  2. Able to communicate their needs and feelings openly.
  3. Responds to their partner’s needs and distress attentively.
  4. Provides support when needed and relies on others comfortably.

Your relationship feels easy? Your partner has a secure attachment style.

This is what you’re looking for in a long term relationship.

How To Find Someone With A Secure Attachment Style?
You don’t have to dive into a relationship to see someone’s attachment style.

Learn to read the right signs and you’ll save yourself from a world of pain.

Most entrepreneurs are notoriously bad at choosing their long term relationships.

That’s why I build the ultimate guide to dating as a high paid entrepreneur.

There are 5 archetypes you want to look for in a long term mating partner.

That’s what my “13th Thesis” is about.

Click this link if you want to learn more about the “13th Thesis” to find love and romance.

Stay strong,

Tai Lopez

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